If you’ve used Tinder for just one hour, you’ve most likely seen several acronyms including ONS, FWB, NSA, DTF, LTR. In today’s article, I explain what all these acronyms mean and how you can find a one night stand on Tinder.
Over the years, I’ve run into more than enough situations to know exactly what to look for when trying to set up a one night stand with one of my matches.
ONS Meaning on Tinder
On Tinder, ONS simply means one night stand. A one night stand is when two people meet to have fun and spend the night together on the condition that they won’t see each other again after that one steamy night, hence the term: “one night stand.”
A lot of girls on Tinder will write “no ONS” to keep the hungry dogs at bay. Inexperienced men on Tinder get too hungry and fail from the get-go when approaching a match to arrange a ONS.
TIP: If a girl includes the warning “no ONS” in her profile, it doesn’t necessarily mean she’s 100% against it. It just means you need to pump the brakes when you approach the situation, which is a rule all men should follow anyhow.
The difference between FWB and ONS
Another acronym that frequently gets lumped together with ONS is “FWB” or friends with benefits. The main difference between the two terms is that in a FWB relationship, the two parties agree to see each other more than one time.
In my experience, I’ve fallen into FWB relationships without ever mentioning it beforehand. FWB relationships often turn into STRs or “short term relationships.”
These days, a lot of women write “No FWB or ONS” in their profiles, so next time you see those acronyms, you’ll know what they are saying no to.
NSA Meaning on Tinder
The third acronym is NSA, and it’s less common to see in profiles than FWB or ONS. NSA means “no strings attached.” If a woman or man is looking for an NSA relationship, he or she is looking for physical gratification without the complications that come with a serious relationship.
An NSA encounter could be a ONS or FWB relationship, depending on the person’s intent.
ONS and FWB are two types of NSA relationships.
What does DTF mean?
DTF is the newest of the terms I’ve mentioned so far and the least glamorous on the list. It stands for “down to f**k.” I’ll let you fill in the blanks since I do my best to keep this site as PG as I can.
Chances are this is the last acronym that will land you any success with a woman, and you may not want success with a woman who embraces this term.
The best practice is to never use any of the acronyms I’ve mentioned so far, even when you are trying to find one of these encounters. It’s similar to sitting at a poker table. Now you wouldn’t show your hand because someone asked you to would you?
What is an LTR?
The last acronym that is on the flip side of the coin is LTR or “long term relationship.” You won’t often see this acronym used by women, in fact, it would be quite odd to see this acronym in a woman’s Tinder profile.
Instead, they will usually write it out: “looking for something long term,” “something serious,” “Interested in something real,” “looking for a bf (boyfriend),” etc.
Before I dive into my guide on how to find a ONS on Tinder, let’s go over the unspoken FWB rules.
The rules for a friends with benefits relationship should be spoken but often go unspoken.
The general #1 rule is neither party can fall in love with the other.
Once one party develops deeper feelings for the other, the relationship will quickly go sour.
Rule #2 is you shouldn’t be spending every day together or texting all the time. The point of a FWB relationship is to meet to assuage your bodily needs while having some fun and experiencing a bit of companionship along the way.
The reason a lot of women write “no FWB” in their profiles is that they’ve tried to have this type of relationship in the past and it ended badly. This is a very common outcome.
The best way to avoid a bad ending to a FWB relationship is to cut it off 100% once it begins turning sour. Since the relationship is fresh, lingering feelings will likely dissipate rapidly.
Lastly, a FWB agreement could be a travel trip together where both parties agree to part ways after the trip is over. This type of agreement is riskier because feelings can develop quickly in a romantic setting in which you’re spending every waking moment together. Proceed with caution.
Now for the fun part.
How to Find a ONS on Tinder
Rule #1: When you arrive at the opportunity for a Tinder ONS, it will happen fast, and you must jump on it. The worst thing you can do is tell yourself, I’m not in the mood, I’ll wait until next time.
The hypothetical “next time” will take ages to happen because the universe is teaching you the lesson: never turn your back on the chance for a quick hookup.
It’s your job as a man to please a woman when she’s in the mood.
You’ll find that hot streaks begin with the first ONS; it’s the snowball effect.
- The first signal a girl could be interested in a hookup or ONS is she messages you first.
- The second signal is she messages you late at night, early in the morning, or during working hours.
- The girls who aren’t looking for something fun will typically message you after they finish work, during their lunch breaks, or in the evening before midnight.
- Younger women in the 18-25 age group are more likely to participate in a ONS than women aged between 26-38. Women in the latter group are usually more interested in something serious or a formal date.
TIP: Women who are traveling and only in town a few days like to meet up with local guys who can show them around. This type of meeting can easily turn into a ONS. The important part is to play it cool and not mention sex before the meeting.
The Mass Message Method
This is the best method to find a girl on your own instead of waiting for her to message you first.
The more chances you give yourself the better odds you have at finding a ONS.
It’s impossible to know who on your match list may be in the mood for a hookup without using this technique.
However, and it’s a big however, I’ve noticed in recent months that Tinder may shadowban you if you overdo the mass messaging. It doesn’t matter if you’ve matched with the girls, you no longer have the right to message them at all at once or too quickly according to Tinder.
Click here to check out my article with proof that Tinder was ghosting my messages to my matches.
The shadow ban is now so intricate that you can become ghosted to a portion of your match list while other messages reach your matches.
The key is to send a message that infers you’re looking for fun, and one of the best is simply: “Want to come over for a drink?”
Chances are most women won’t get offended enough to report you. They will simply deny you or mock you, and it’s your job to ignore all negative feedback because if you don’t, you could get reported and banned.
Always remember that Tinder is quicker to ban men than women, and they will side with women in almost all cases.
TIP: Don’t ever report a woman, even if she’s offended you or gotten out of line. Tinder could review your case and ban you instead of her.
Once a woman replies with a “yes” or shows interest to the question “Want to come over for a drink?” you quickly make a move to get her number and schedule the meeting outside of the Tinder app.
Here are two examples of instances that turned into a ONS for me that same night. I’ll keep this short and sweet since the main point is to show you that finding a hookup on Tinder is quite possible and sometimes immediate.
Example #1 The Australian
This is the perfect example of a traveling girl who messaged me first.
Example #2 An Afternoon Delight
This example is all about right place, right time.
The most critical point to remember is you must capitalize on these leads. I remember when I was younger, I would make up excuses or tell myself, Next time. Don’t be the “next time” type of guy, be the “this time” type of guy, and successes will come in heaps.
To be successful on Tinder, you must get into the proper mindset and optimize your photos by testing to see which ones work best.
Once you get these two things right, Tinder is really fun.
I see too many guys on the internet complaining about getting no matches and quitting after a couple of days.
It takes time and patience to optimize your Tinder profile and find the right photos, but once you do, the floodgates shall open.
Cheers and good luck.