After receiving a ton of emails from guys asking me why they are getting no matches on Tinder, I decided to write this post. There are too many reasons to list why you are getting no matches, but this article includes the most critical ones.
Normally, all you need to do is make some basic changes and switch up your approach to score some beautiful women. Don’t beat yourself up along the way and become discouraged.
Here Is the Ultimate List of Reasons Why You’re Getting No Matches on Tinder
1. You Look Creepy
- If all of your photos are in the dark, you’re not going to get any matches.
- If your entire profile is a bunch of selfies showing off your weak arms, good luck finding a date.
- The only friend in your pictures is your mom? Nough said.
2. No Pictures with a Smile
Chicks dig guys with good smiles. It’s one of the most attractive features you can have. Lucky for you, there are braces and teeth whiteners out there if your grill is looking rough. Once you have your teeth in good shape, work on your smile in the mirror. You’ll be amazed what you can achieve.
3. You Have No Clue How to Choose the Right Photos
The #1 biggest reason men get no matches on Tinder is their photos. I’m going to break it to you, it’s not your fault. Have you ever wondered why girls almost never look as good as in their photos? It’s because they are the masters of alteration.
Don’t be afraid to make alterations.
4. Your Tinder Bio is Blank
Only super hot girls can pull off a blank Tinder bio. Half of the time, those super hot girls are Tinder bots anyway. It’s not hard for some lard ass eating Doritos to pull a pic from Instagram and set up a profile. Then he schemes desperate guys into signing up for dating sites. Take my advice, don’t ever believe anything on Tinder that seems too good to be true.
5. You Wrote Something Creepy in Your Bio
I’ve seen guys write sly messages alluding to sex. Most girls get grossed out by guys who talk about sex. Believe me, this type of message won’t get you any matches. There are much better ways to filter out the girls who are looking for fun (they do exist). Get her wet before you start talking dirty. She needs some build up before you go in for the notch.
6. Your Tinder Bio is Curious
Your about section looks a little something like this: Hi, I’m Ralph. I like music, art, and the gym. I’m looking for a gym buddy. Add some flavor, or you’ll end up with no Tinder matches.
7. You Don’t Have Tinder Plus
Without Tinder Plus, you will never get anywhere. You can read my full Tinder Plus review here to see why I love it so much. Just imagine the damage you can do in a place like NYC with unlimited swipes. There’s enough tang there for everyone.
8. You Live in an Old Person’s Home
This is for the guys who live in the middle of nowhere. Chances are if you know everyone in the tiny town you live in, you will have trouble finding any girls on Tinder. The only solution is to move to a city. You should move to a city anyway if you’re a single guy. You’ll be amazed by how much more options you have once you get there.
One of the reasons I have so much success is because I move between different cities. There is a constant influx of fresh meat on Tinder. If your job requires you to travel around the country to major cities, you can have a field day on Tinder. Getting with different girls in each city should be no problem, and before you know it, you built a harem. Of course, you need Tinder Plus in order to use the passport feature. This way you can pipeline different girls in each city.
9. You’re Out of Shape
There really is no excuse for being out of shape if you are a healthy grown man. Poor diet and lack of exercise are only for pathetic people. You need to feed your brain and body. Try to workout at least 3 days a week. Forget all those muscle-building myths. An average guy should try to work out the entire body a few days a week. I learned that from this guy. Unless you’re a professional bodybuilder, you shouldn’t focus on one part of your body each workout.
If you want a six pack, you need to make your abs burn every time you hit the gym. Diet is even more important than working out when it comes to building a six pack. Believe me, I barely have one, and I worked my ass off to get where I’m at. Quitting foods like ice cream is no fun either, but it’s necessary if you want to get laid on Tinder.
10. You Failed to Show Off the Goods
If you are attractive and have a nice body, show it off in at least one of your photos. The best way to know if you did it right is by polling girls you already know. If enough girls think your photo is sexy, this means you should use it on your Tinder profile.
Who cares if a couple girls you know see the photo?
If you look good, there is nothing to be ashamed about. Think about how much girls show off their bodies. Now on the flip side of this coin, if your body is bad, don’t show it off. If you just started hitting the gym and gained a tiny bit of muscle, don’t get ahead of yourself Macho Man. Leave those guns in the holster before you make a fool of yourself.
11. Your Text Game Blows
Text game is more important now than ever before. Considering, we are focusing on online dating here, everything you type matters. There are too many mistakes guys make when just starting out. Girls have a sixth sense and can get a read on you fast by reading your messages. Besides knowing what not to say, you need to know what to say. Text game is something you need to work on until you beat your problem of getting no matches on Tinder.
12. Girls Think You Are Needy
If you look like a needy bitch, you will never get any matches on Tinder. Never seem too interested in a girl or continue to message her after she ignored you. Once a girl makes up her mind, there is nothing you can do. Also, avoid writing anything in your Tinder bio that makes you look needy or lacking a love life.
Girls don’t want to sleep with the guy who hasn’t gotten any in years. Yes, you will need to work your way from the ground up. Don’t worry, the process is more fun than it sounds.
13. You Failed to Get to the Point
If you’re not looking for a chat buddy and want to get laid on Tinder, then cut to the chase. You shouldn’t tell your life story to a complete stranger. Below is a perfect example of asking the right questions. I ended up picking up a solid lay with a girl I missed out on the first time around.
Tinder is more like speed dating than anything else. Getting a match on Tinder is only the first step of many. By using my methodology, you can decrease the number of steps and be in her pants a lot faster. If you read some of my previous posts, you know I’ve gotten laid using a grand total of 3-5 messages. It’s because I know what to ask and when to ask it.
14. You Wasted Time Thinking of an Epic Opening Message
The whole Tinder opening message thing is annoying af. Yeah, you don’t want to only say “hi” in most First World countries, but you shouldn’t be crafting a uniquely clever opening message for every match.
This is a huge waste of time and completely pointless. Do some testing to see which messages work best. Then paste them on a clipboard app to use later. You should get a feel for a girl’s type right off the bat and know which message to use.
If you can’t think of any, contact me. Don’t buy some e-book, most likely written by a girl, with bogus examples. That crap doesn’t work and never will. You need to craft your own messages. Once you have a few, you can use them for life.
15. You Have No Hobbies
If you have no hobbies to show off, then get some now. No girl wants to spend time with a lame guy. Even if you are really good looking, lack of talent can still lead to no matches on Tinder.
An average looking guy with talent and money will beat out a handsome loser any day of the week. The handsome guy may score girls for one night stands, but they won’t be coming back for more.
16. You Live with Your Parents
Nothing is more shameful than living with your parents. You will subconsciously set yourself up for destruction if you there is no place for you to take a girl. The same goes for guys without a car. Unless you are living in a major city, you need a car. Once you have your own place and a car, your confidence will skyrocket.
You don’t need to be rich to have either of these things. Luckily, not all girls are gold-diggers. Cool girls won’t judge you for living in a small apartment or driving a decent car. It’s more important to keep your space clean and organized. Messy, unorganized people are unattractive in general.
I met this cute blonde once. We were getting flirty, but once I saw how messy her room was, it really turned me off.
17. Your Expectations Were Too High
This one really hits home for me. When I first started online dating, I thought it was going to be a piece of cake. I didn’t take into account all the fierce competition. In countries like America, there are way more guys on Tinder than girls.
It seems like everywhere in America is a sausage party – one of the main reasons I don’t live there. Unfortunately, a lot of other places are becoming the same way due to Westernization. This is why you need to make yourself standout!
Back to the point, with the wrong expectations, you will set yourself up for disaster right from the start. You can’t slack or mess up anything on this list. Once you optimize your Tinder profile, most of the work is done on autopilot.
I barely have to work to pick up new lays. This goes back to my methodology and some tactics I use to save huge chunks of time. When I first started finding success dating online, I spent too much time talking to girls and buttering them up. Once I began working online, my job started eating up most of my time. Now, I’m getting laid more than before and putting in less work.
There is almost nothing more important in this world than optimization.
18. Your Style is Whack
If you’re wearing sweatpants and a torn up old Abercrombie shirt, chances are you will have a terrible Tinder experience. Style is just as important as looks for a lot of girls. You need to find what works for you and what doesn’t.
Overdoing it can also work against you if you’re rocking more accessories than Johnny Depp. Two things I always have are fresh, name brand white tees and designer jeans.
19. You Didn’t Work on Yourself First
Read this post to learn how to work on yourself and become more attractive. Nothing annoys me more than a guy who complains about not being good looking. There are girls out there for every guy.
20. You Didn’t Contact Me
The best decision you can make is to contact me. The amount of time you will save is invaluable in itself. If you’re too cheap, then go ahead, have fun wasting years on the trial-and-error process. I’ve already mastered this game and went from getting no matches on Tinder to getting thousands across the globe. It’s time to step up your game and get an authentic taste of paradise!