After receiving a ton of emails from guys asking me why they’re getting no matches on Tinder, I decided to write this post.
There are too many reasons to list for why you’re getting no matches, but this article includes the most critical of the bunch.
Normally, men need only to make basic changes and improve their approach to score with attractive women.
Men shouldn’t beat themselves up for not getting any matches or become discouraged.
The Definitive List of Reasons You’re Getting No Matches on Tinder
1. Creepy Photos
- If all your photos are in the dark, you’re not going to get any matches.
- If your entire profile is a bunch of selfies showing off your weak arms, good luck finding a date.
- The only friend in your pictures is your mom? You get the point.
2. No Pictures with a Smile
Chicks dig guys with good smiles. It’s one of the most attractive features a man can have. Luckily for men, there are braces and teeth whiteners out there if their grill needs an overhaul. Once the teeth are in good shape, work on the smile in the mirror. You’ll be amazed at what’s achievable.
3. No Clue How to Choose the Right Photos
The #1 biggest reason men get no matches on Tinder is their photos. I’m going to break it to you, it’s not your fault. Have you ever wondered why girls almost never look as good as in their photos? They are the masters of alteration.
Don’t be afraid to make alterations.
4. Blank Tinder Bio
Only top-tier girls can pull off a blank Tinder bio, and half the time, those girls are Tinder bots anyway. It’s not hard for a Dorito-eating web troll to pull a pic from Instagram and set up a profile. Then he schemes desperate guys into signing up for dating sites.
The point is: don’t ever believe anything on Tinder that seems too good to be true.
5. Creepy Bio Section
I’ve seen guys write sly messages alluding to sex. Most girls get grossed out by guys who talk about sex. This type of message won’t attract matches.
There are much better ways to filter out the girls who are looking for fun (they do exist). Get her excited before escalating. She needs some build up before the play goes down.
6. A Curious Tinder Bio
Your about section looks a little something like this: Hi, I’m Ralph. I like music, art, and the gym. I’m looking for a gym buddy. Add some flavor, or you’ll end up with no matches.
7. No Tinder Plus
Without Tinder Plus, men will never get anywhere. You can read my full Tinder Plus review here to see why I love it so much. Just imagine the damage men can do in a place like NYC with unlimited swipes. There are enough women there for everyone.
8. Live in the Middle of Nowhere
This is for the guys who live in the middle of nowhere. Chances are if you know everyone in the tiny town you live in, you will have trouble finding any girls on Tinder.
The only solution is to move to a city. You should move to a city anyway if you’re a single guy. You’ll be amazed by how many more options you have once you get there.
One of the reasons I have so much success is that I move between different cities. There is a constant influx of fresh women on Tinder.
If your job requires you to travel around the country to major cities, you can have a field day on Tinder. Getting with different girls in each city should be no problem, and before you know it, you’ve built a harem.
Of course, you need Tinder Plus in order to use the Passport feature. This way you can pipeline different girls in each city.
9. You’re Out of Shape
There is no excuse for being out of shape for the healthy grown man. Poor diet and lack of exercise are only for pitiful people.
Men need to feed the brain and body. Try to workout at least 3 days a week. Forget all those muscle-building myths. An average guy should try to work out the entire body a few days a week. Unless you’re a professional bodybuilder, there’s no need for bro splits.
If you want a six pack, you need to make your abs burn every time you hit the gym. Diet is even more important than working out when it comes to building a six pack.
I barely have one, and I worked my butt off to get where I’m at. Quitting foods like ice cream is no fun, but it’s necessary if you want to score on Tinder.
10. Failed to Show Off the Goods
Men who are attractive and have a nice body should show it off in at least one of their profile photos. The best way to know if you did it right is by polling girls you already know. If enough girls think the photo is hot, this means you should use it on your Tinder profile.
Who cares if a couple girls you know see the photo.
If you look good, there is nothing to be ashamed of. Think about how much girls show off their bodies.
Now on the flip side of this coin, if your body is bad, don’t show it off. If you just started hitting the gym and gained a tiny bit of muscle, don’t get ahead of yourself, Macho Man. Leave those guns in the holster until they’re ready to blaze.
11. Terrible Text Game
Text game is more important now than ever before. Considering I’m focusing on online dating here, everything I type matters.
There are too many mistakes guys make when just starting out. Girls have a sixth sense and can quickly get a read by reading your messages. Besides knowing what not to say, you need to know what to say.
Text game is something you need to work on until you start steadily getting matches.
12. Girls See a Needy Man
If you look like a needy man, you will never get any matches. Never seem too interested in a girl or continue to message her after she ignored you.
Once a girl makes up her mind, there is almost nothing you can do. Also, avoid writing anything in your Tinder bio that makes you look needy or unworthy of beautiful women.
Girls don’t want to sleep with a guy who hasn’t gotten any in years.
Yes, men need to work on themselves from the ground up, but don’t worry, the process is an essential part of a successful life.
13. Failing to Get to the Point
If you’re not looking for a chat buddy and want to score on Tinder, then cut to the chase. You shouldn’t tell a complete stranger your life story.
Below is a perfect example of asking the right questions. I ended up picking up a solid score with a girl I missed out on the first time around.
Tinder is more like speed dating than anything else. Getting a match on Tinder is only the first step of many.
By using my methodology, you can decrease the number of steps and score a lot faster. If you’ve read some of my previous posts, you know I’ve scored using a grand total of 3-5 messages because I know what to ask and when to ask it.
14. Wasting Time on an Epic Opening Message
The whole Tinder opening message topic is blown out of proportion. Yeah, men don’t want to say “hi” in several situations, but they also shouldn’t be crafting a unique opening message for every match.
This is a huge waste of time and completely pointless. Do some testing to see which messages work well. Then paste them on a clipboard app to use later. You should get a feel for a girl’s type right off and know which message to use.
Don’t buy some e-book most likely written by a girl with bogus examples. That stuff doesn’t work and never will. You need to craft your own messages. Once you have a few, you can use them for life.
Click here for a few free examples of opening lines that work.
15. Zero Interesting Hobbies
If you have no hobbies to portray, then get some now. No girl wants to spend time with a lame guy. Even if you are really good looking, lack of talent can still lead to no fruitful matches on Tinder.
An average looking guy with talent and money will beat out a handsome loser any day of the week. The handsome guy may score girls for one night stands, but they won’t be coming back for more.
16. Live with Your Parents
Nothing is more shameful than living with your parents. You will subconsciously set yourself up for destruction if there is no place for you to take a date back.
The same goes for guys without a car. Unless you are living in a major city, you need a car. Once you have your own place and a car, your confidence will skyrocket.
You don’t need to be rich to have either of these things. Luckily, not all girls are gold-diggers. Cool girls won’t judge you for living in a small apartment or driving a decent car.
It’s more significant to keep your space clean and organized. Messy, unorganized people are unattractive in general.
17. Unrealistic Expectations
This one hits home for me. When I first started online dating, I thought it was going to be a piece of cake. I didn’t take all the fierce competition into account. In countries such as America, there are way more guys on Tinder than girls.
It seems everywhere in America is a sausage party – one of the principal reasons I don’t live there. Unfortunately, a lot of other places are becoming the same way due to globalization. This is why men need to stand out!
With unrealistic expectations, men set themselves up for failure right from the start.
Men can’t slack or mess up anything on this list. Once you optimize your Tinder profile, most of the work is done on autopilot.
I barely work to pick up new scores. This goes back to my methodology and some tactics I use to save huge chunks of time.
When I started finding success dating online, I spent too much time chatting. Once I started working online, my job began eating up most of my time. Now, I’m scoring more than before and putting in less work.
There is almost nothing more important in this world than optimization.
18. Whack Style
If you’re wearing sweatpants and a torn up old Abercrombie shirt, chances are you will have a terrible Tinder experience. Style is just as important as looks for a lot of girls. Men need to find what works for them and what doesn’t.
Overdoing it can also work against you if you’re rocking more accessories than Johnny Depp. Two things I always have are fresh name-brand white tees and designer jeans.
19. Failed to Work on Yourself First
Read this post to learn how to work on yourself and become more attractive. Nothing irritates me more than a guy who complains about failing. There are girls out there for every guy.
20. Didn’t Contact Me
I’ve already mastered this game and went from getting no matches on Tinder to getting thousands across the globe.