All men worth their salt are only looking for a quick Tinder hookup. Tinder isn’t a place men typically go to find a serious or long-term relationship unless they strike gold (which I’m starting to realize is very, very possible in certain places).
The key to scoring a quick hookup on Tinder is simple. There’s a basic process you can use to find a girl who is down. She probably won’t be the pick at the top of your list and certainly not in the Tinder Top Picks section, but she’ll assuredly get the job done.
I’ve scored with a wide range of women (which is a nice way of saying my standards aren’t always high), and I’ve noticed that the most attractive girls always seem to pop up after taking one or two for the team. In my opinion, this is the universe equally itself out.
Now, let’s get down to it…
Here’s the framework for scoring on Tinder that works.
The Keys to Finding a Tinder Hookup
The primary method you need to learn is how to skip over the girls who definitely aren’t looking for a hookup. There are many ways to do this, and some are better than others.
Here’s a brief checklist of points to consider during your search:
- Stay consistent with your filter message. Tinder doesn’t have many sorting options, but it’s now possible to get around. Here’s how to how to organize your Tinder matches.
- Don’t obsess over one girl. Men who do this are setting themselves up for disaster. Men will almost never get the girls they obsess over – it just doesn’t work that way.
- You need to be direct on Tinder just enough. Beat around the bush some, just be sure to infer the intended goal. When a match agrees to come over, in most cases, she knows what’s up. In some cultures, the rules are different.
After you’ve completed the legwork and found a girl(s) who’s interested, it’s time to plan your meeting.
When you have multiple girls who are interested in meeting, you should choose the girl you find the most attractive or think gives you the best chance to score the hookup you’re after.
If there’s no clear winner, always go with the youngest girl. This was a tip passed down to me from a good buddy I grew up with.
How to Escalate with Your Tinder Matches
The best case scenario is when you convince the girl to come straight over to your place for a drink.
If you don’t want the date to continue after the “fun” part, you should let the girl know ahead of time that you only have a couple of hours to meet. If she’s still down to meet, you can be almost 100% sure she’s open to hooking up with you.
I tell my dates that I plan to go to the gym or have work to do.
If she doesn’t want to come straight over, but hooking up does seem likely, meet her at a nearby bar or coffee shop. Make the meeting point as close to your place as possible.
Make sure to drop context clues in the conversation, but never mention sex. This is a big turnoff for girls.
She knows the date will most likely lead to the bedroom, but she doesn’t want to feel like a slut.
Be aware that some girls will back out or change their minds after meeting up. Sometimes, they’re just not feeling it in person, and there’s nothing you can do to convince them to hookup.
This happened to me on a few occasions. I never took it personally because I always have a backup plan.
How to Convert Your Tinder Date into a Hookup
- First, make her feel comfortable when she arrives by offering her a drink and a relaxing place to sit down. Clean up your place before her arrival. It’s critical to avoid appearing messy or lazy. The key is to create an attractive, relaxed setting.
- Second, sit down and talk with her to make her feel more comfortable. Use your inherent charm to make her laugh. Tell her an interesting story that grabs her attention and makes her more attracted to you. Your body language is key here.
- Third, once she’s relaxed, and the vibe is positive, it’s time for you to escalate. This is one of the most important moves I’ve learned from sleeping with 100s of women. Instead of moving toward her for the first kiss, pull her toward you. I’ve never been denied when I say, “Why don’t you come a little closer” while putting my arm around her. It’s been golden for me.
- Fourth, she’s close now. Time for you to go in for the kiss. Once the kiss gets cemented, slowly escalate until you reach the bedroom. Don’t escalate too quickly. With more practice, you’ll learn how to escalate efficiently.
Below is an example of an aggressive conversation I had that led to a Tinder hookup:
By using my Tinder methodology, your odds of scoring increase dramatically.
I can pick up a new girl(s) every day with minimal effort using my methods.
It’s exciting how lucky men are right now. Ten years ago, none of these dating apps existed.
There’s no longer a need to do loads of cold approaches or waste money at the club. All the hookups you could ever wish for are right at your fingertips.
Scoring a Tinder hookup is still highly possible, but the approach is somewhat different than before. I recommend reading my How to Get Unbanned and Tinder Shadow Ban articles to get a feel for how things work these days.
I’ve developed methods that help you get around a ban and avoid one altogether. If you do happen to get banned, I recommend reading the book to learn the perfect method to create a new account in 2019 without getting caught.
Tinder is now a money machine, and a lot of men are calling it the “pay for play” age. In a way it is, but there will always be ways to jump the hurdles Tinder rolls out.