How to stay hard longer without coming? This is one of my favorite questions to answer. In this guide, I promise to provide a ton of value. I share with you my natural methods, unconventional methods, and the easy way to stay hard longer in the bedroom.
I’ll tell you upfront that by using the methods included in this guide I’ve lasted for over an hour straight without coming on more than one occasion.
This is the type of performance a woman will never forget and will undoubtedly keep her coming back for more.
I assume that is the primary reason a lot of you are here right now.
You may even find that she’s ready to finish before you!
So let’s get down to it…
The Keys to Staying Hard Longer
There are two keys to staying hard longer that are paramount: blood flow and level of interest (libido).
The more attracted I am to the woman the longer I want to last. I want that slice of Heaven on Earth to last forever, and the longer I’m inside her the longer I experience unforgettable moments of shared ecstasy.
Blood flow is the part we can control, and it’s the main focus throughout my guide.
How long can the average guy stay hard? According to this study, around 6 minutes. The same study found that any man who lasted more than 21 minutes is considered an “outlier.”
I’m glad to be an “outlier.” My methods must work quite well because 21 minutes is easy in my opinion.
How to Stay Harder Longer Without Coming Naturally
Way back when I first started this site, I wrote an article that still provides value to this day.
One of the most effective ways to last longer in bed and avoid premature ejaculation is by deep breathing during intercourse.
Although, it’s more than just taking a quick deep breath.
When I was only a teenager, I began studying the art of the complete breath.
I later found that if I took a complete breath during intercourse when I felt like I was about to come, it relaxed my body.
The instant relaxation stopped the need to finish and allowed me to last longer. The beauty of this method is you can do it as many times as you like during intercourse.
For more on this method, click here to read my article dedicated to it.
I prefer the deep breathing method over thinking about baseball or something unsavory during intercourse.
The deep breath method allows me to stay in the moment and last longer while the former takes my mind somewhere I don’t want it to go.
Tip: practice the complete breath before you have intercourse. It relaxes me before intercourse, improves my performance, and helps me last longer.
Foods to Eat to Help Keep an Erection
In my previous article, I mentioned several foods that help me stay erect longer without pills.
Here’s a list of the foods that give me better hard-ons:
- Beet juice
- Sweet potatoes
- Kale cooked in olive oil
- Cayenne pepper powder
- Raw carrots
There are also foods you should avoid if you want to stay erect longer naturally. Fast food and other foods fried in unhealthy oils won’t do your manhood any good.
When I drink too much alcohol, I go from Superman to super pathetic in the sack. A few beers can work in my favor, but going overboard equals a bad performance in the sack.
I find that healthy carbs such as sweet potatoes give me extra energy while the fruits boost my vitamin and mineral intake.
I stopped taking multivitamins a long time ago and prefer to get my nutrients from food.
Vitamin D Deficiency and Erectile Dysfunction
Here’s an interesting statistic: A study including 3,400 men found that 35% of the men with erectile dysfunction had a vitamin D deficiency.
I don’t take a vitamin D supplement, but I do make sure to get enough sun.
One of my favorite activities is sprinting with my shirt off and bare feet in the grass under the sun.
I also love to surf.
Every time I go out surfing in the sun all day, I’m extra horny that night. My performance is always better and longer after a solid day of surfing.
Sprinting under the sun also leads me to similar results.
Heck, I’ve even engaged in intercourse with previous girlfriends outside under the sun, and it’s always been amazing.
The bottom line is that men need vitamin D from the sun to be sexually healthy and increase virility.
Also, every night before bed, I drink milk – a good source of vitamin D.
Herbal Libido Boosters
For over a decade, I’ve experimented with herbal libido boosters and aphrodisiacs.
A good deal of this site is dedicated to my knowledge about herbs.
There’s a ton of trash on the internet being spewed by people who lack knowledge about the herbs they’re pawning off on people.
I always scoff when I see “proprietary blends” of herbs with fillers. Don’t buy these; it’s that simple.
One of the most important lessons I’ve learned is herbs must be tested by themselves to get the dose right.
Proprietary blends contain small amounts of each herb.
Companies love to list all the “benefits” you’ll get from each herb and then fail to supply adequate doses to reap those benefits.
Below, I provide links to top articles I’ve written for herbs that help me get erect easily and stay hard:
- Horny Goat Weed
- Eleuthero Root (Siberian Ginseng)
There are tons of golden nuggets sprinkled throughout the above articles. I still have more to write for other herbs I’ve used with success, so stay tuned!
Here’s the upside to the natural route over the ED pills route: The effects are long-term and cumulative.
It’s best to cycle herbs to avoid building a tolerance, which is another reason I don’t take proprietary blends.
I’ve been taking cordyceps for well over 5 years, and it still produces cumulative positive effects that go well beyond staying hard longer in bed.
I have a fair bit of mushroom knowledge and after investigating all the brands available, the one through the link passed my test.
The key to cordyceps is to buy the fruiting bodies and not the mycelium powder.
The Mental Approach
In order to get erect easily and stay erect, your mind needs to be in the right place.
Confidence goes a long way to staying erect longer in bed.
My mindset before I engage in intercourse at age 34 is much, much different than when I was 18 – night and day.
These days, I’m more focused on pleasing my partner and delivering an overwhelming, passionate performance.
I know it takes at least 20 minutes to deliver a full performance that brings her to orgasm multiple times.
Five years ago, I would ask my partner if she came to confirm that I had brought her to climax.
These days, I’m not asking, I’m knowing.
This is all about the mindset and the angle you take before you lay with a woman.
It takes practice and experience to master your own mind and learn self-discipline.
I never want to take anything away from myself that gives me instant gratification, but when I do, I never regret it, which leads us to my next section.
Nofap Your Way to Lasting Longer
One of the more damaging routes any man can take I’ve now confirmed is to give himself gratification with his own hand and adult entertainment whenever he sees fit.
I’m now one week deep into a combination of no sex and nofap, and I can already say without a doubt that it’s worth it.
How does this help a man stay hard longer without coming? Well, for many reasons.
Pleasuring yourself to adult videos on the internet is the easiest way to reduce the time you last in bed. I don’t need to look up any science on the internet to prove it because it happened to me.
Before I started traveling, I regularly watched adult vids and fapped my way to instant gratification.
Then when it came time to do the real thing, I came up short.
Once I started traveling, I began having so much sex that there was no time to fap or watch adult vids.
My journey also led me to the realization that the vids and fapping caused me to come sooner than I wanted to.
Earlier this month, I lasted for over an hour, and every time I engage in sex, I last for at least twenty minutes in the first round.
I accredit a large part of my lengthy performance to my stalwart mind state.
The bottom line is your mental approach to lasting longer must match your physical approach if you want to turn into a sexual dynamo.
More Energy Equals More Time in the Sack
Without adequate energy, a man can’t last long in the sack.
Here’s a list of how I increase my energy levels on a daily basis:
As I mentioned earlier, one of my favorite carbs is the sweet potato, which helps me maintain energy throughout the day.
I love to drink a strong cup of green tea before a long performance because I know it’ll give me that extra oomph.
Zinc reduces my refractory period, helps me get harder erections, and spikes my libido.
Horny Goat Weed is another supplement that increases my overall energy and heightens my libido.
The main takeaway is you need extra energy to last longer in bed.
How to Stay Erect Longer with Pills
This article wouldn’t be complete without the easiest way to stay hard longer in bed without coming.
In a previous article, I shared my story about sexual exhaustion and how it led me to experiment with ED meds.
Before continuing on in this section, please take the time to read my disclaimers. I’m not a medical doctor, this is an opinion site, and I take zero responsibility for anyone else’s actions. Nothing on this site should be construed as medical advice.
Now that that is out of the way, allow me to share my experience.
I’ve taken Cialis, Viagra, Levitra, and generic Viagra (sildenafil citrate) with great success.
The reason these meds helped me last longer is they do a marvelous job of increasing blood flow to my manhood.
Levitra is my favorite of the three for lasting longer. Just 10mg of Levitra is all it takes for me to last forever.
I’ve had several instances where my partner was exhausted before I climaxed.
However, I only use these meds in moderation when I’m looking for an extra boost or having a lot of sex.
Now that I’m engaged in a streak of nofap and no sex, I won’t be taking these for a while. Nevertheless, I’ve had some incredible times on these meds, and nothing makes it easier to keep an erection longer.
Four years ago, I was anti-ED pills, but now I’m 100% behind them when used in moderation and responsibly.
The Importance of Setting
One of the best ways to last longer in the sack is to change up the setting or make the usual setting more interesting.
Once sex becomes monotonous in the same setting, it loses its flavor like gum.
A simple change in setting can spike my libido and help me last longer.
If you and your partner are in a dull groove and looking to break out of it, think outside the box.
A man needs some enthusiasm to last longer because, without it, he’ll only seek to finish.
Did I deliver on my promise? I think I did. There’s a ton of value you could mull over for days to enhance your sex life on many levels included right here in my How to Stay Hard Longer Without Coming All-in-1 Guide.
These are the methods I use to last longer in bed.
I take pride in my performance and have even promised women a lengthy performance to entice them to meet.
Once you reach beyond the 20-minute mark and become an “outlier,” a fresh breath of life will fill your overall confidence. Just walking down the street feels different when you know you can outlast most other men.
You may also like my article on how to stay hard after coming.
Good luck out there, until next time.
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